At the start of the year I set out my goals for the Millennial Dad movement. I pinned them to my Twitter profile as a public statement and to hold myself accountable for reaching them. They are:

  1. Define my vision.

  2. Publish my book.

  3. Establish my web presence.

Another month has passed and we’re now in March. I’m writing this post feeling a little ashamed that I haven’t done much to move things forward since the last post. I continue to maintain my web presence although I’ve fallen short in the past week.

Real life always seems to get in the way!

Our second baby is due at the end of March. The past two weeks have been a constant struggle to paint the house and buy everything we need to prepare for our impending arrival. And then there’s the growing realisation that I’ve forgotten how to care for a new-born baby! Work has been busy and one of my grandparents has been taken ill.

I really wanted to focus on defining my vision for the Millennial Dad movement but I haven’t managed to find the time.

I kind of know what I want to achieve with the Millennial Dad blog and that’s the celebrate and support modern fatherhood. I now need to focus that into a defined vision with a set of objectives and aims. The trouble is, to do any of this requires time and space. I’ve been waiting for the right time to sit and work out my vision, time to write down what I want to achieve, and really give it some proper thought and attention. And now February has passed – technically we’re still at the end of the month because February is such a short and silly month!

I may have failed to reach one of my goals but I’ve also learned a valuable lesson… there’s never a perfect moment!

We can sit and wait for the stars to align, for the perfect weather and opportunity to get things done, but at the end of the day it’s better to just start something and work hard on it. Why?

–         If you start something there’s a much higher chance you’ll keep it going.

–         If you do only a little bit to keep things moving, then you can take comfort in the knowledge you’ve moved things forward.

–         An imperfect moment can be more productive and inspirational than waiting for the perfect moment.

There are many fantastic parent bloggers on the web who juggle so many different commitments and keep going. Look behind their glossy websites and impressive productive output and you’ll find discipline and hard work.

We all struggle from time to time and it’s important to realise we’ll never be able to achieve everything. Sometimes we need to take a break and acknowledge that we’ve done a good job, even if it’s not everything we wanted to get done.

So, I may not have achieved all my goals in February. But I’m proud that I kept the blog running, connected and engaged with more brilliant parent bloggers, and also got a bit more prepared to welcome a new baby into the world. Sometimes it’s ok to give yourself a pat on the back.

At the start of the year I wrote a blog to set out my goals for the Millennial Dad movement. I pinned it to my Twitter profile as a public statement but also to hold me accountable to myself, if that makes sense. I’m often reminded of them whenever I check my profile:

1. Define my vision.
2. Publish my book.
3. Establish my web presence.

So far I’ve made the most progress with establishing my web presence. I’ve set up accounts through the main social media channels and started to make use of them in different ways. Whereas I thought Twitter and Instagram were synonymous and I could post the same thing to each, I’ve realised each has its own advantages. Twitter is great for interacting with people and I’ve enjoyed discovering and learning from other parent bloggers. Instagram is a really great place for images and also to engage with others across the world on different topics.

Here are some shout outs for two people I’ve particularly enjoyed following.

Twitter: @youbabymemummy. Does a great job in sharing tips about blogging which is particularly useful for those of us just starting out. There’s so much great material on her blog and regular links to stuff through Twitter.

Instagram: @FatherofDaughters. This guy is hilarious and posts some truly fantastic content. He’s obviously successful, too, as his posts are liked by thousands of people. He gives a daily insights into life as a dad to four girls.

I’ve also taken the plunge and opted to self-host my blog.

I thought that if I was serious about it I should just go for it. So I saw a recommendation for a hosting company called Siteground and a design company called Pipdig. It was really easy to set up. And by really easy I mean I didn’t have to do a thing! The Pipdig guys very kindly connected everything for me and installed a cool WordPress blog theme. So now I have a brilliant site and I’ve tried to bring together all my social media onto the page. It looks pretty good if I say so myself, even if my ugly mug is plastered at the top of the page.

So I think I’ve gone some way to establishing my web presence although I know this job will never really end. The point of a social web presence is to stay engaged so I know my blog will evolve over time.

Finally, on branding I’ve commissioned a designer on Fiverr to produce a new logo to give me a bit more of an identity.

Where does that leave my other goals?

I haven’t made much progress with the book for a while. I bashed out an early draft but it’s still at the monkeys on typewriters stage. I’ve started to read through some early chapters but I’ve not made much progress with editing. Now I’m up and running with the blog and starting to post regular content, this should inspire me to get on with the book. After all, the book was my main idea before the blog took hold.

And on defining my vision, I don’t feel I’ve made much progress of actually writing it down. I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what I want to achieve but I still need to articulate it. Work out my elevator pitch, as they say. Vision should really come first and then everything else should flow from it. But one of the best pieces of advice I ever got was not to wait until something is perfect. Just get on and do it. JFDI.

So that’s January done and only 11 months to go until 2018.

I’d love to devote more time to the Millennial Dad but I’ve got a full time job and a daughter to look after, too, so I’m beginning to learn the art of managing my time wisely. Oh, and the small matter of another baby on the way in March. Eek!


New Year’s Day came and went. I was a grumpy old man/exhausted parent and simply stayed in to relax. I decided not to do any particular resolutions in my day-to-day life but I’ve come up with three goals for the Millennial Dad blog and wanted to share them with you. 
1. Define my vision.

Have you ever watched the famous Simon Sinek TED talk video on leadership? If not, leave this blog now and search for it (but please come back later). In the video, he talks about how truly innovative companies inspire people to become involved. He says “people don’t buy what you do, they buy why you do it”. I didn’t create this blog solely to capture my daily thoughts; I’m not that interesting and can’t write as well as many pro bloggers. But I did start the Millennial Dad blog because I believe there’s a new generation of fathers who are redefining parenting. I want to write about this and I want to help them. So one of my first goals for 2017 is to define the vision for what I want to achieve. If I can get that right I may just start making sense to people like you, who are kindly reading my blog!

2. Publish my book. 

The idea for this blog started with me sketching out the plan for a book on what the Millennial Dad is and tips for modern fatherhood. So far I’ve written a short book and I keep adding to it. I want to craft and edit it to perfection but I know the best thing to do is to just get it out into the world and refine as I go along. After all, I want to start a conversation not write a masterpiece. So goal number 2 is to get the book done!

3. Establish my web presence. 

This is a tough one and something I’ve been struggling with. I’ve started to follow lots of fantastic parent bloggers with wonderful websites, Facebook pages, Twitter profiles and Instagram. It’s all a bit overwhelming. For example, if I have a photo to share, do I put it on Twitter or Instagram? Should I use Hootsuite to post to many places at once or is this cheating? One thing I’ve learned from reading many brilliant blog posts is that content is king (or queen) so I’m practising my blog-writing skills and trying to learn as I go. By the end of 2017 I want to have an established web presence. That doesn’t necessarily means lots of followers, but I want to have something that shows who I am and what I’m trying to achieve. 

So there we have it. I’ve written it down now and put it out there. If you happen across this post over the course of the year, please do help me out by emailing phil@millennialdad.co and asking “how are the goals going?” There’s nothing like a bit of accountability to spur us on. 

Thanks, Phil.