We were walking to ballet class this morning and passed the old house of one of A’s friends, who moved away from the area last year. 

“Do you remember going to Santino’s house?” I asked. 

“Who’s Santino?” She replied.

I’ve started to notice that she is forgetting some things in the past that meant something to her. 

A. was good friends with this little boy and used to play with him a lot. But now he’s moved away and we haven’t seen him, she’s gradually forgotten about him. The same is true for my great aunt, who died last year. We chose not to mention it and she has gradually forgotten my aunt’s name. I get a tinge of sadness when I think that she’s forgetting these experiences and people. But then her whole life only spans four years and she’s learning so much every day she can’t be expected to remember it all. My first memory isn’t until around aged five. I think I can remember being stuck in my cot when I was a baby but then perhaps I made up that memory. Some people claim they can remember being born!

As children grow up they forget things but that doesn’t mean those things are any less important.

They might not remember a holiday as a toddler but the experience will contribute to their development. It’s important to capture as many memories as possible. 

Take photos, record video, keep mementoes from holidays and drawings from nursery. In the digital age the millennial dad can do this really easily storing things digitally without filling up our homes with bits of old paper. It’s good to hold onto things and bring them up in later years. 

I enjoy looking through all the old stuff my mum has kept about me over the years. Occasionally it sparks memories of the past, and often it makes me think about the happy childhood I had. 


Being a parent means all your energy and time is invested in your family. There’s often not much time for anything else. Thankfully, these days it’s far easier to be connected wider family; your own parents, siblings, cousins, etc. Facebook takes care of family news and Skype is good for real-time conversations around the world. 

The internet generation is so well-developed that there’s now a website to help with every possible task. There’s so much out there that it’s hard to separate the wheat from the chaff. So when I find something that works particularly well I want to let people know about it. 

Sign-o-matic is a website dedicated to making signs of all shapes and sizes. Think about all the possibilities – door signs, house sign, name badges, anything. 

When my mum asked me to print off and laminate a piece of paper I knew I could better. I searched for “laminated plastic sign” on Google and got a few results. I checked out a couple of sites but the one that got my attention straight away was Sign-o-matic. I don’t know much about sign making. And I didn’t really know what I was looking for. But I would know if I saw it. 

It was good to see numerous examples on the site. Designing the sign was a simple step-by-step process. I wasn’t overloaded with options and I could see at each stage how the finished sign would look. I don’t know much about costs for making signs but the prices seemed reasonable. I was able to get the finished sign delivered direct to my mum, meaning I don’t have to drive all the way over to her. 

There are loads of tools and websites that exist to make our lives easier. This is never more important than when a parent, as our time gets sapped by so many other things. Ultimately, it’s all about spending quality time with those we care about. Anything that helps me to do that gets my vote of approval. 

This morning I woke up with a cat crawling on my head. The house was empty. I was tired. I’d stayed up far too late watching episodes of The Man in the High Castle. I showered, dressed, fed the cat, had some cereal, then came to work. The first person I spoke to was a colleague I passed in the corridor.

Nothing about this is remarkable except it is the first time in a long time my wife and daughter haven’t been there. They are away for a couple of days and I have the place to myself.

It used to always be like this. I only ever had to think about myself.

Every morning I would only have myself to get up and get ready, as I would march to work. Then at the end of the day I might go out with friends on a whim, go the gym (hardly) or whatever else at home.

Parenthood changes changes your sense of time.

I never realised how much I could get done in the time available when it is focused by having a family. The necessity of feeding a child in the morning or making sure everyone is ready for going to school helps to focus my mind on the things that are important.

The busier I am with family life the more focused I am in work life.

I think many millennials are in the same boat. Making the transition from carefree lives to responsibilities takes some adjustment, but it is something want to do and don’t run from. And if we’re going to do it, we want to be 100% committed and do it well.

Now I’m a dad, I’m more productive than ever.


New Year’s Day came and went. I was a grumpy old man/exhausted parent and simply stayed in to relax. I decided not to do any particular resolutions in my day-to-day life but I’ve come up with three goals for the Millennial Dad blog and wanted to share them with you. 
1. Define my vision.

Have you ever watched the famous Simon Sinek TED talk video on leadership? If not, leave this blog now and search for it (but please come back later). In the video, he talks about how truly innovative companies inspire people to become involved. He says “people don’t buy what you do, they buy why you do it”. I didn’t create this blog solely to capture my daily thoughts; I’m not that interesting and can’t write as well as many pro bloggers. But I did start the Millennial Dad blog because I believe there’s a new generation of fathers who are redefining parenting. I want to write about this and I want to help them. So one of my first goals for 2017 is to define the vision for what I want to achieve. If I can get that right I may just start making sense to people like you, who are kindly reading my blog!

2. Publish my book. 

The idea for this blog started with me sketching out the plan for a book on what the Millennial Dad is and tips for modern fatherhood. So far I’ve written a short book and I keep adding to it. I want to craft and edit it to perfection but I know the best thing to do is to just get it out into the world and refine as I go along. After all, I want to start a conversation not write a masterpiece. So goal number 2 is to get the book done!

3. Establish my web presence. 

This is a tough one and something I’ve been struggling with. I’ve started to follow lots of fantastic parent bloggers with wonderful websites, Facebook pages, Twitter profiles and Instagram. It’s all a bit overwhelming. For example, if I have a photo to share, do I put it on Twitter or Instagram? Should I use Hootsuite to post to many places at once or is this cheating? One thing I’ve learned from reading many brilliant blog posts is that content is king (or queen) so I’m practising my blog-writing skills and trying to learn as I go. By the end of 2017 I want to have an established web presence. That doesn’t necessarily means lots of followers, but I want to have something that shows who I am and what I’m trying to achieve. 

So there we have it. I’ve written it down now and put it out there. If you happen across this post over the course of the year, please do help me out by emailing phil@millennialdad.co and asking “how are the goals going?” There’s nothing like a bit of accountability to spur us on. 

Thanks, Phil. 

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I’m sitting in bed as I write this post. It’s usually a rule I don’t like to break but sometimes it’s ok to have bit of screen time late at night. I’m ready for the morning. I’m not gloating about it. But I know when I get up I’ll be able to get myself ready for work and my daughter ready for nursery without loads of stress.

My morning routine wasn’t always so easy and I used to rush everywhere.

In my 20s I got up as late as possible, hurried to work, ate lunch at my desk, went out with friends at 5pm and stayed up most of the night watching DVDs or on the internet. It can’t be like that now; the Millennial Dad must develop a routine to make sure everything goes smoothly. That doesn’t mean taking the fun out of things, but it does mean thinking a bit more about how we do things to get the most out of life and being a parent.

So here are my three tips for creating a successful morning routine:

  1. Create processes for your morning routine.

A routine is just that. It’s a set of actions that you follow to accomplish a task. When thinking about a morning routine you should aim to practice it over and over until you get it right. So you might set the alarm for 6.30am, get up, shower, have breakfast, wake up your children, give them breakfast, get dressed, go to school and work. You might decide that it’s not early enough so set the alarm for 6am. Test out different strategies until you find the right one for you. But always aim to follow a set plan. Don’t just hope to get everything right, make it happen.

  1. Find your own extra hour.

The Millennial Dad knows that everyone has the same 24 hours in each day to get things done. He knows that a morning routine will mean a lot of effort to get himself and his family ready to face the day. He also knows the importance of finding his own time to prepare for the day. In the past, you may have had the morning to slowly prepare yourself for the day ahead, maybe listen to the radio, read a book, all before you get up. These days it may not be so easy. But it’s still important to find some time in the day to start how you want to. Some of us want to do exercise or write part of a book. If so, these things won’t get done by getting up at the usual time. Instead, find that magic extra hour. Get up at 5am instead of 6am, when the house is still asleep. Use this precious time to get your most important “you” task done, whatever that may be. And then you can guarantee to be able to face the morning routine knowing you’ve already accomplished something important.

  1. Acknowledge the end of each day and think about the next one.

Recognise the importance of each day. Don’t rush through things. At the end of everything you’ll wonder what you did with your time. Take time at the end of the day to appreciate what you’ve achieved, what you’re grateful for, and what could have gone better. Breathe. Then think about the next day. What do you want to achieve? How do you want that day to look? Prepare for tomorrow by setting yourself up for success. Make sure everything is in its right place so you don’t have to rush tomorrow.

Whatever your morning routine it’s important not to get too stressed about things. Occasionally it will go wrong, you’ll be late for work or school, or maybe your train will be cancelled or there’ll be traffic. It’s not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. There’s always another day.